My life is chaotic right now.
I'm close to being kicked out of my residency. I was told briefly about during the end of last week and yesterday I had a bit more in-dept conversation with my psychiatrist and contact person about it. I knew I was at risk which already worried me then, but it turns out I'm closer than I thought. I have a meeting in two weeks which will be more serious and only about that subject with my psychiatrist, contact person, the owner of the residency, caseworker, and my therapist. Needless to say I'm frightened.
The reason to it is because it costs the state 50.000 DKK each month for every single resident and if you don't progress enough while living here, it's not considered a good investment and they'd rather use the money to pay for another person who shows more progress. I understand their point of view, I know it's a shitload of money they spend on me having an adress here and I see where they come from when they think it's a waste of money + space if they think I don't try hard enough. I already know that I haven't progressed much at all for a year now so it's not a big shocker to me in that sense.
My psychiatrist told me it's "the final call", so either I have to get better when it comes to a handful of my problematics that I've tried solving for years, or else I'm being kicked out. I'm given a short time frame to fix my problems all at once.
I don't deal well with pressure nor being stressed and it's during those times I tend to fall deeper. I'm scared of it all and I honestly don't think I will be able to live up to those things. If it were just a few things and a longer time frame, I would might be able to make it. But it's all of my problematics at once and a very short period of time I'll have to change everything in order to stay here.
There's a lot of thoughts in my head and I'm uncertain about what I'm going to do right now. I can try to do my best and see if it works and they'd let me stay here, but I honestly don't believe it's reachable goals because of the time span. If I do get to work out some of my problematics but not enough for them to let me stay here, I might feel even worse about it. I'm not good at handling "you tried your best but it's not good enough"-situations.. (all that was worded really poorly, but I'm not sure how to express it)
"quit while you're ahead". If I put all my work into it and they'd still reject me in the end, it could harm my mentality (know from past experiences). I'm thinking about moving voluntarily, the problem is that I have nowhere to go as it looks right now. I'm thinking about discussing it with my contact person it tomorrow, to know what the consequences could be. To be honest, I'd rather have it like that. Move out by own choice than being told to leave. And again, I really don't believe the goals are reachable at all. Many might say "it's worth trying", but I just know that it could wind up hurting me pretty badly.
The reason why the thought of being told to move is hurtful is because I always feel insufficient and like I can't live up to what people expect of me. This pretty much confirms it.
I can't even live normally enough to be accepted at a house for people who already have problems to begin with.
The end sounds so sad. You could still - if you had the money, live alone, and then meet with people...
SvarSletbut I'm sure you're more than capable of living with someone, if you get better :)
and I really hope you get better.